Move Through The Pain, Not Past It: Let’s TransForM Together

Certain experiences in our life show up as teachers with an invaluable lesson to be learned.

Ultimately, it is your choice to either embrace these lessons or continue to move past them, rather than through them.

Here’s the catch:

If you elect to move past them, the lessons will resurface again with harsher and more severe consequences attached.

Energetically speaking, darkness draws in light, and light draws in darkness.

The fragile, empty core of the covert narcissist drew you in to reveal to them the true meaning of love. Conversely, the inability of the covert narcissist to reciprocate genuine love forced you to nurture self-love.

Regardless of how independent, successful and self assured you were prior to the covert narcissist, there was likely a past experience in your formative years that attracted them into your life.

If you do not confront and investigate past (or current) traumas on a deeper level, the covert narcissist will continue to show up in your life - just with different masks concealing uglier entities each time.

-Dr. Z, The Flying Monkey, MD

A potted white orchid flower with multiple blossoms, partially illuminated by light, against a dark background.

Not sure where to begin?

The TFM Transformation Course is here to help.

Is This You?

You’re intuitive. Empathic. Spiritually aware.
You’ve always been able to read people—so how did the covert narcissist get past you?

The covert narcissist wore a mask so well, even your intuition second-guessed itself.
Now, even though they’re gone… their energy still lingers.

The self-doubt.

The shame.

The brain fog.

The fear of repeating it all over again.

You’ve done the therapy. Read the books. Journaled. Meditated.


Yet, nothing has fully clicked—because what happened wasn’t just emotional abuse…

It was spiritual warfare.

You don’t need more coping tools.


You’re looking for a soul-level blueprint to break the trauma bond, clear the energetic residue of the covert narcissist and fully awaken into your highest timeline.

What You’ll Learn Inside the TFM Transformation Course

The TFM Transformation Course is a soul-deep healing experience that bridges the emotional, physiologic and spiritual damage caused by covert narcissistic abuse.

You will:

✅ Understand how covert abuse hijacks your nervous and endocrine systems

✅ Break the trauma bond and stop self-blame cycles

✅ Sever energetic cords with the covert narcissist and reclaim your identity

✅ Investigate your root wounds—and finally heal them to prevent unhealthy relationships from latching on again in the future.

✅ Activate the version of you that was buried beneath the abuse

This isn’t just about healing from your past. It’s about rising into who you were always meant to be.

You won’t get your old life back—and that’s a good thing.

The version of you who tolerated covert narcissistic abuse: They are not coming back.

This course doesn’t just speak to your mind—it speaks to your soul.

Most trauma programs offer symptom relief. The TFM Transformation Course offers spiritual rebirth.

Here, we don’t bypass the pain - we move through it. We use it as fuel to our awakening.

This course is for the survivor who’s ready to:

✨ Investigate what made them vulnerable to covert narcissists—and toxic relationships in general
✨ Forgive themselves for not recognizing the abuse sooner
✨ Rebuild trust in their intuition and divine discernment
✨ Stop sipping survival—and start pouring into transformation

What Makes This Course Different?

Meet Your Guide For the Journey - Dr.Z

I wore the white coat. I checked every box. But behind the titles and accolades, I was unraveling—silently abused by two covert narcissists no one else could see… or were unwilling to acknowledge.

Despite my medical training, I couldn’t explain the soul-deep exhaustion. The brain fog. The emotional numbness.

The feeling that life had dimmed and I didn’t know how to turn the light back on.

I suspected depression—and to some extent, I was right. Trauma from covert narcissistic can lead to depression—with the root cause camouflaged, much like the covert narcissist.

Eventually, I understood the truth the deeper I went into my healing journey: Covert narcissism is spiritual warfare.

This course was born from my own healing journey—where science met somatics and truth met transformation. It’s the roadmap I wish I had when I was stuck in the fog at the beginning of my recovery.

You’re not meant to stay broken. You’re awakening to your purpose. Now it’s your turn to rise.

  • You’re functional but numb on the inside

  • You’re spiritually awake but trauma still haunts you emotionally and energetically

  • You’ve done therapy—but still feel stuck in the loop or feel as if you barely scratched the surface

  • You are trapped in cycles of rumination and/or self-blame

  • You are grappling with anger that you no longer want to hold on to but don’t know how to release

  • You are a people pleaser or over giver

  • You are an empath ready to focus on YOU for a change

  • You want real tools, real talk and real transformation

  • You’re done shrinking, silencing yourself and second-guessing your light

  • Open to doing the inner work, even if it is painful at times

  • You have a growth mindset

  • You want guidance from someone who has lived through covert narcissistic abuse—not just studied it

  • You’ve outgrown the image imposed on you by parental figures, colleagues and/or friends but don’t know who you are without it

  • You want more than just survival. You want to THRIVE on your best timeline yet. Stronger than before you met the covert narcissist

  • You are ready to awaken to your life purpose and birthright

This Course is For You If:

This Course is NOT for You If:

  • Active Crisis or Experiencing Suicidal Thoughts

    • If you are in emotional crisis or experiencing suicidal ideation, please seek immediate support from a licensed mental health professional or call/text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. You can also access online support at 988lifeline.org

    • If you or someone you know is suicidal or in immediate danger, please call 911 or proceed to the nearest emergency room for evaluation immediately.

      Your life matters. Help is available.

  • Untreated Severe Depression, PTSD or Complex Trauma

    • This course is not a replacement for intensive therapy. If you’re struggling to function day-to-day, I strongly urge you to work with a licensed therapist before embarking on the TFM Transformation Course

    • Talkspace.com is an online platform where therapy services are available. I have a coupon available on my linktree account that you can use for a discount: linktr.ee/theflyingmonkeymd

  • Unable to Self-Reflect Due to Deep Rooted Trauma

    • This course invites you to gently examine your patterns, triggers and trauma responses. If you’re not ready to look inward, the course may feel confronting rather than healing.

  • Seeking a Passive or Quick Fix

    • Healing from covert narcissistic abuse requires time, intention and courageous engagement. If you're hoping for instant results without effort, this course won’t meet your needs.

  • Still in Deep Enmeshment with a Covert Narcissist

    • If you're still emotionally or physically entangled and not yet ready to create distance, the material may be triggering. Return when you feel safe enough to focus on your own healing.

🚨 Disclaimer

The content shared by The Flying Monkey, MD and Dr. Z is intended for educational and informational purposes only. While Dr. Z is a board-certified endocrinologist she is not acting as your personal physician and does not provide individualized medical or psychiatric advice through this platform, course or any related materials.

Nothing presented here is intended to treat, prevent or cure any medical condition. Always consult with your own licensed healthcare or mental health provider before making decisions related to your physical or emotional well-being.

This content reflects trauma-informed coaching grounded in lived experience and viewed through the medically informed lens of a physician. However, it is not a substitute for professional medical care, intensive therapy or psychiatric treatment—especially in cases of severe depression or suicidality.

Engaging with this site, its content or programs does not establish a doctor-patient relationship.

Survival was Just the Beginning.

Your Higher Self is Calling. Are You Ready to TransForM and Rise?

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Dr. Z, The Flying Monkey, MD, is a covert narcissistic abuse recovery specialist and board certified endocrinologist. Through her prolonged, first hand experience with two interconnected covert narcissists and their flying monkeys, she has made it her mission to educate victims on this elusive personality disorder. In the TFM Transformation Course, Dr. Z shares the techniques she used to: Identify, Manage, Walk Away and Heal from the trauma inflicted by these covert narcissists and their flying monkeys.

  • The TFM Transformation course offers an in-depth exploration of the healing process involved in recovering and thriving after covert narcissistic abuse. The focus of the TFM TikTok and Instagram accounts is to educate victims on the traits of covert narcissism and the insidious nature of covert narcissistic abuse.

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